“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” ~Nelson Mandela
Do you wish your circumstances in life were different? Have you reconciled yourself to accept that you can’t achieve your goals? Do you think it would be nice to travel, but you don’t think you can afford it? It’s time to change your mindset and learn how to take control of your own life.
Think Like a Child
Children don’t like to accept “no” for an answer. “But why not?” they ask. “Because we can’t afford it” is not an acceptable answer to a child. That has no real meaning to him. A couple of years ago, my son set his heart on a gaming computer. The price on these things start at over $1,000. I explained it was out of the question, not in the realm of possibility for us at my income level. But he wouldn’t let it go. He kept coming up with ideas and “what ifs.” What if his grandparents and everyone we know who buys him birthday and Christmas presents put all their money together to buy the gaming computer? Well, that still wouldn’t be enough money, but the more intelligent his suggestions became, the more I started to take them seriously. Maybe he’s onto something here. We sat down to brainstorm and write down ideas of how we could actually make this happen. And we did make it happen! We found a friend who could build a computer for our son, and we ordered the parts from Amazon. We ended up getting a sleek and beautiful, powerful gaming computer worth about $1,500, but it only cost me $400.
Develop a Plan
What do you want out of life? Is there something you want to achieve that you think is out of your reach? First, change your mindset. Instead of dismissing your dream as unrealistic or too big, ask yourself what it would take to accomplish it. Don’t dismiss your dreams; think how you can make them happen! Brainstorm with friends or family. Sometimes they will have different ideas you may not have thought of. Anyone who is not helpful or tries to tell you that you can’t achieve your goal does not get to play! Develop a plan for achieving what you want in small, do-able steps. Make each step relatively easy to accomplish so you achieve success right away. That feeling of success in achieving each goal will motivate you to reach the next one. Too often, people fail in achieving their goals simply because they don’t develop a do-able plan like this to help them succeed.
For example, instead of the vague idea of losing twenty pounds, come up with a plan to set several smaller steps that you can reach easily. You could start with the first step something like committing to exercise for twenty minutes while watching your favorite TV shows only three days a week. Or walk the dog ten minutes longer each day. Something that makes sense for you with your own lifestyle that will be easy for you to succeed. Then when you get that step down, go to your next step which could be eating a healthy salad for lunch three days a week or drink a glass of water before each meal or whatever you know will work for you to accomplish another step closer toward your ultimate goal. You will stay motivated as you achieve each step, and the process will be much more painless than attempting a strict diet or exercise regimen all at once.
What dream can you make your reality by developing your plan to make it happen?